Respect. A simple yet a big word. Something to be earned and not to be demanded from anyone.
As I was driving my way to my meeting this day, I was listening to the radio and the DJ told that respect is something earned, and not something to demand for it. As I was listening to it, I smiled, and said to myself, “Agree”.
My experience, or rather, what I am experiencing now with my job is not a joke. Given the pressure and the stress from work demands, I have a bigger dilemma, that is, managing my co-workers, specifically, my OIC. We had series of commotions, misunderstandings, and bullying experiences that makes our work-relationship more difficult. From here, we were given the chance to have a one-on-one talk, tried to see if we can still manage to have a good work-relationship, but nothing happened, still the same misunderstandings and even make it worse.
One time, as we were talking about why we are having this kind of misunderstandings and all, he told me, "Caryl, respeto lang. Yun lang ang hinihingi ko para sa atin dalawa." When I heard on this, I told myself, “Like WTF!! You’re asking for it?? Are you sure you’re asking for it??”, then I just told him, "You cannot earn that respect from me. That I cannot give to you."
This is the first time that I encountered such person who’s demanding this respect from me. Who in this crazy world would give this boy the respect, knowing that he’s such a bully, demanding, immature little boy acting as if he’s the greatest man in the whole world, and a person who knows nothing but to spread non-sense rumors about you and your personal life just to make him standout from the group.
I remember his distributor calling him (secretly) as “totoy”, a nickname given to a little boy who acts like an intelligent, know-it-all person.
Today, we will not be on the same group again as I will be handling a different account, joining a different group, but still, we are still at the same company.
We get to meet different people, with different personalities, with different beliefs and perspectives. But for an individual to earn respect, he/she should learn first how to respect himself/herself, so that you will earn others’ respect and not demand it from them.
Respect is easily earned as long as you know what really RESPECT is.