Respect is earned. Thou shall not demand for it.

Respect. A simple yet a big word. Something to be earned and not to be demanded from anyone. 

As I was driving my way to my meeting this day, I was listening to the radio and the DJ told that respect is something earned, and not something to demand for it. As I was listening to it, I smiled, and said to myself, “Agree”.

My experience, or rather, what I am experiencing now with my job is not a joke. Given the pressure and the stress from work demands, I have a bigger dilemma, that is, managing my co-workers, specifically, my OIC. We had series of commotions, misunderstandings, and bullying experiences that makes our work-relationship more difficult. From here, we were given the chance to have a one-on-one talk, tried to see if we can still manage to have a good work-relationship, but nothing happened, still the same misunderstandings and even make it worse.

One time, as we were talking about why we are having this kind of misunderstandings and all, he told me, "Caryl, respeto lang. Yun lang ang hinihingi ko para sa atin dalawa." When I heard on this, I told myself, “Like WTF!! You’re asking for it?? Are you sure you’re asking for it??”, then I just told him, "You cannot earn that respect from me. That I cannot give to you."

This is the first time that I encountered such person who’s demanding this respect from me. Who in this crazy world would give this boy the respect, knowing that he’s such a bully, demanding, immature little boy acting as if he’s the greatest man in the whole world, and a person who knows nothing but to spread non-sense rumors about you and your personal life just to make him standout from the group.

 I remember his distributor calling him (secretly) as “totoy”, a nickname given to a little boy who acts like an intelligent, know-it-all person.

Today, we will not be on the same group again as I will be handling a different account, joining a different group, but still, we are still at the same company. 

We get to meet different people, with different personalities, with different beliefs and perspectives. But for an individual to earn respect, he/she should learn first how to respect himself/herself, so that you will earn others’ respect and not demand it from them.

Respect is easily earned as long as you know what really RESPECT is.

May 18, 2011 (Wednesday) today’s reflection (A Day at a Time)

I considered myself a “loner” in the days when I was actively addicted. Although I was often with other people…most of my important dialogues were with my inner self. I was certain that nobody else would ever understand… I smiled through gritted teeth even as I was dying on the inside…

today I will remember: i am becoming whole

~it accurately matches my inner self emotion for this day… :\

MAY 3, 2011

On this day of your life, Caryl, we believe God wants you to know … that if you relax, it comes. Don’t seek, don’t search, don’t ask, don’t knock, don’t demand - relax. If you relax, it is there. If you relax, God shows you the way.

april 30, 2011 (saturday)

On this day of your life, Caryl, we believe God wants you to know … that there are appropriate times to stand in your power.

Power isn’t always evil. If you stand tall in the power of goodness, you can have a powerful impact on a situation.

April 29, 2011 (friday) On this day of your life, Caryl, we believe God wants you to know … that it’s your heart that knows who loves you, not your ears or eyes.

Listen to the words, and you can be fooled. Look at the actions, and you can be fooled. Feel deeply into your heart, and then you will know the truth. Who makes your heart soar now? Well, what are you waiting for?

april 16, 2011 (saturday)

On this day of your life, Caryl, we believe God wants you to know … that it’s okay to receive.

Have you been the giver for so long that you have forgotten how to receive? Allow others to give you some of the love that you give so freely. Seek a balance between your giving and your receiving.

Silence doesn’t always means yes, it could also mean: “I’m tired of explaining to people who don’t even care to listen.”

Worst way to miss someone = Sitting right beside him, knowing I can‘t have him.

No one has the right to judge you. They might have heard the stories, but they didn’t feel what you felt in your heart.

March 23, 2011 (wednesday)

On this day of your life, Caryl, we believe God wants you to know … that nothing is exciting if you know what the outcome is going to be.

You keep wanting to know how things will play out, keep asking to see the future. God doesn’t give anyone the power to know the future, because life becomes maddeningly boring when you know everything upfront. So, instead of struggling, enjoy the uncertainty - to be alive means to not know.